Buiten Schilderen

(This article is also in English. Click here)

En Plein Air.

Je schildert, of misschien ook niet, en je wilt buiten gaan schilderen. Nooit eerder gedaan, maar op de een of andere manier voel je de roeping. Dus verzamel je je nieuw gekochte veldezel, je penselen en kleinere verftubes omdat je je goed hebt voorbereid en geen extra lading wilt dragen, en ga je naar een mooi, lokaal plekje om te schilderen. Het weer is geweldig, de vogels zingen, vlinders fladderen rond en je voelt je goed. Je bereidt je minipallet voor, drinkt snel een beetje water en bent klaar om te starten. Maar ojee, je hebt dit nog nooit eerder gedaan. Hoe begin je? Je hebt zoveel jaren ervaring, je kent je spullen, maar op de een of andere manier kom je vast te zitten met de warme bries rond je nek.

Herken je dit? Vertrouw me, je bent niet de eerste, of de enige, of de laatste die ontdekt dat het schilderen buiten heel anders is dan schilderen in je atelier.

In dit artikel hoop ik een beetje uit te leggen waarom dit gebeurt (je zult zien dat het best te verwachten is) maar meer over hoe je het beste uit het buiten schilderen kunt halen.

Een beetje geschiedenis.

Buiten schilderen, of En Plein-Air zoals de Fransen het noemden, is niet zo oud als je zou verwachten. Het was allemaal te danken aan twee dingen. Allereerst de uitvinding van olieverf. Hoewel de 15de eeuw als de periode wordt gezien waar het gebruik van olieverf zou zijn begonnen was het veel vroeger dat de olie werd gebruikt om een ​​verf te maken. Verschillende grotschilderingen zijn gevonden met pigmenten verborgen in notenolie. Ook tijdens de middeleeuwse periode gebruikten monniken lijnolie voor hun boekschilderijen. De tweede was de uitvinding van een drager voor de olieverf, die in 1841 werd gedaan door de Amerikaanse schilder John Goffe Rand. Hij gebruikte een varkensblaas gecombineerd met glazen injectiespuiten om olieverf te vervoeren. Door zijn uitvinding ontstond er een heel nieuw gebied van schilderkunst.
Tube display museum
Er wordt aangenomen dat het Pierre-Auguste Renoir was die zei: “Zonder verf in tubes zou er geen impressionisme zijn geweest.”
Klinkt logisch. Impressionistische schilders werden bekend om hun kleurrijke, wilde en, zoals de beweging kreeg zijn naam, zeer impressionistisch in benadering. Veel impressionisten worden nu aangehaald voor de uitspraken dat het belangrijkste doel van het, op deze manier schilderen, was om een ​​echte indruk te geven van dat specifieke moment van de dag. De poging wagen om dat ene moment van de dag waarin je de pracht van wat je ziet probeert te vangen met verf op je doek.

Eenieder van jullie, die de vreugde van buiten zitten heeft ervaren en de uitdaging voelt om dat specifieke licht te vangen, de steeds veranderende kleuren, de temperatuur, en probeert om dit binnen een bepaalde tijd op je doek te zetten, zal dit herkennen.
Maar wat maakt het zo anders dan in een atelier werken? Het meest voor de hand liggende is natuurlijk dat je niet binnen bent maar buiten werkt. Hoewel verwacht, kunnen de invloeden van buiten, de wind, de zon, de geluiden en natuurlijk de regen een groot effect hebben op hoe je zit te schilderen. In je atelier is heel anders. Je kunt vrijwel alles aanpassen om je werkruimte zo aangenaam en constructief mogelijk te maken voor je werk. Probeer dit met die moeilijk te bereiken rotsachtige plek achter een grote boom naast een rivieroever. En toch raken steeds meer schilders, wanneer ze de magie van het buiten schilderen ontdekken, serieus verslaafd.

Om buiten te werken, kun je het beste elke verwachting over wat je kunt verwachten, wat het zal zijn of wat je wilt gaan schilderen, thuis laten liggen. Waarom? Omdat het altijd anders zal zijn.
Zodra je een mooi plekje hebt gevonden, alle rondvliegende insecten die in je verf terecht komen hebt geaccepteerd, geleerd om te beslissen wat je wilt schilderen, ontdek je al snel de ondraaglijke pijn van het veranderende licht. Vertrouw me, zelfs op een mooie zonnige dag met een heldere blauwe lucht zonder een briesje, zul je een steeds veranderend lichtlandschap aan je voorbij zien trekken. Het schilderij dat je start zal nooit meer hetzelfde zijn als het werk dat zich aan het eind van je zit aan je presenteert.

Enkele praktische tips.

De huidige handelaren in kunstenaarsbenodigheden lijken tegenwoordig precies te weten wat je nodig hebt om je doel als artiest te bereiken. Waas het maar zo eenvoudig. Sommige gadgets die er zijn, kunnen je buiten-schilder-ervaring inderdaad een stuk aangenamer maken. Maar maak niet de fout, en de kans is groot dat je dit toch doet of al gedaan hebt, om te denken dat een dure, ultramoderne uitrusting een garantie is voor geweldige schilderkunst. Excuus voor mijn vooringenomenheid. Het is veel waarschijnlijker zijn om te weten dat het jouw ervaring, je doorzettingsvermogen en uithoudingsvermogen zal zijn die voor mooie resultaten zal zorgen. Niettemin zijn sommige apparaten onvermijdelijk om buiten te werken.

Om te beginnen heb je een ezel nodig. En zelfs de noodzaak ervan is te betwisten. Tegenwoordig kun je een lichtgewicht aluminium ezel kopen die gemakkelijk te dragen is. Ook kleine ezels van hout zijn prima in gebruik en je hebt de beroemde schilderdoos-ezels die je ezel combineert met je verfdoos. Handig maar een beetje zwaarder.
Dan is er de beslissing of je wilt staan ​​of zitten. Voor mij is staan ​​geweldig, maar zitten is fijner. Ik word snel moe in mijn benen wat het schilderproces niet ten goede komt. Daarom is een opvouwbare stoel handig en prima mee te nemen.
Neem voldoende vodden of doeken mee. Het viel me op, gezien het feit dat je je penselen thuis moet schoonmaken, dat het zo handig is om veel van die lappen bij je te hebben. Handig om te bedekken, schoon te maken en uiteindelijk je kwasten in op te bergen wanneer je klaar bent met buiten schilderen in het veld.
Een ander ding om rekening mee te houden, is waar je gaat schilderen en hoe je het wilt transporteren. In mijn omgeving is er een groep plein-air schilders (ze gaan er elke week op uit, ongeacht het weer) die op ingenieuze wijze een systeem gebruiken waarmee ze meerdere panelen in een doos schuiven. Hoe handig is dat. Ik raad je echter aan om een ​​systeem te maken dat geschikt is voor jou om je werk te vervoeren. Zelf bedacht ik een soort deksel voor het schilderij. Ik werk altijd op linnen. Ik plak het canvas op een bord met een vaste maat en heb van een dunne plaat met verhoogde zijkanten een deksel gemaakt. Dat brengt ons meteen bij een andere praktische tip: de grootte van je schilderij. Als je van plan bent om met de auto te gaan en weet dat je dicht bij je auto blijft, is de grootte van je schilderij ongeveer zo groot als je auto aankan. Als je echter overweegt om een ​​mooie wandeling te maken voordat je een goede plek vindt die elke vezel van je zijn zal omhelzen en je te verteld dat je dit moet schilderen, zou je misschien twee keer moeten nadenken voordat je een doek van 1 bij 1 meter gaat gebruiken. Over het algemeen zijn panelen of canvas van kleine afmetingen gemakkelijk te dragen, gemakkelijk om mee te werken en gemakkelijker te hanteren. Omdat, en laten we dit niet vergeten, het idee van ‘en plein-air’ is om een ​​schilderij ter plekke te maken en te voltooien.

Tot zover praktische tips.

Nu enkele technische tips en suggesties.

Als je ooit de tijd hebt genomen om de impressionistische werken te onderzoeken, zul je snel merken dat er een specifiek gebruik van kleuren is. In feite worden bepaalde kleuren in veel gevallen niet gebruikt.

Als je door het landschap loopt en over de bomen, de nabijgelegen struiken, de heuvels in de verte en de verafgelegen dorpshorizon glundert, zul je als ervaren plein-air schilder meteen het verschillende palet van kleuren onderscheiden. Echter, als een typische studiokunstenaar vraag je je misschien af ​​hoe die impressionisten tot die, soms extreme, kleurenkeuze kwamen. Om dit te begrijpen is het goed het volgende te weten. Vóór de 19e eeuw, tijdens de klassieke benadering van de schilderkunst, was het algemene aangenomen om de exacte, of zo we dachten, kleur van het object te schilderen om een ​​meest overtuigende gelijkenis met de werkelijkheid uit te drukken. Omdat bijna elke kunstenaar in een atelier werkte en natuurlijk daglicht niet vanzelfsprekend was, is het niet verrassend om bijna alleen een kleurgebruik te zien die we direct herkennen als meest voor de hand liggende kleurenspectrum. Dit werd echter radicaal omgegooid door de kunstenaars die wij nu kennen als de impressionisten. Deze wisten, juist door naar buiten te gaan, te ontdekken dat door de verandering van het licht, de invloeden van atmosfeer, afstanden en vochtigheid, kleuren totaal kunnen veranderen en zich in een veel complexer spectrum aan ons oog gaven dan voorheen aangenomen. Bovendien zul je zien, wanneer je wat tijd neemt om buiten te zitten en een landschap in je opneemt, de kleuren inderdaad vibrerend en, belangrijker, niet zo conform zijn als je zou denken. De impressionist begreep dit door kleuren (opnieuw) te verdelen in warme en koude kleuren. Door deze kennis praktisch te gebruiken, begrijp je meteen waarom ze zoveel blauw en groen gebruikten voor schaduwen (koud) en felgeel, oranje en rood voor de meer zonnige en heldere delen (warm) in het schilderij.

Wanneer je jezelf de volgende keer op avontuur begeeft om buiten te gaan schilderen, moedig ik je aan om hierin eens te experimenteren en ik moedig je nog meer aan om, voordat je met je schilderproces begint, enige tijd te nemen om gewoon te zitten en te absorberen wat je ziet. Probeer voorbij het verwachte kleurenpalet te gaan, buiten dat wat je weet dat je ziet en verder dan wat je denkt dat je ziet. Neem gewoon waar en neem het in.

Buiten schilderen, ‘en plein-air’ is inderdaad een avontuur. Een ontmoeting tussen jou en wat je observeert, jij en wat jij denkt dat buiten jou is. Maar als je deze voorgeprogrammeerde overtuigingen loslaat en onschuldig observeert, zul je zien dat kleuren inderdaad meer zijn dan je op het eerste gezicht ziet.

Geïnspireerd? Ik hoop dat je naar buiten gaat en begint met het schilderen van wat je ziet. Laat het me weten.

Mocht je in de buurt zijn, Er zijn deze zomer weer diverse plein-air workshops.
Meer informatie is te vinden op www.schidercursusarnhem.nl

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The Love for Ourselves

Our sense, believes on self-acceptance, our ability to have a certain degree in experiencing love for ourselves, is greatly depending on the ability to become aware and eventually free ourselves from earlier created mind-games, beliefs and convictions.
For example, we all have a certain idea about beauty. And I don’t mean the commercial kind of beauty that is torpedoed at us. I’m talking about the beauty that we try to aim for as individuals and the one in which we compare ourselves with our direct surrounding. We admire or dislike others by the mere capacity of liking ourselves. How many of us can honestly say that they found themselves totally and absolutely beautiful? Not many would be my guess. But did you know that when you are scanning around the people around you, unconsciously you are scanning from your own pre-programmed mind-set to seek out and categorise every person that is around you? Did you know that every time you look at another person, all kind of systems are set in motion to figger out where this person is fitting in? Most of the time we use three different categories: worse, same, better.
Here is an example:
For me, my teeth, next to the fact that I thought I was excessively skinny, had always been that part of my body that I didn’t like. When I was young, I hated my teeth. It was ratter late, in my thirties that I, with the encouragement of my wife, had my teeth straighten out. It was after doing so that I kind of had peace with them but still, not in love with them. However, I realized that I was scanning, with a strong comparing program, other people and judging them by their teeth. If someone had better teeth than mine, I felt insecure, if someone had similar teeth as mine, I felt equal. If they had worse teeth than I did, I felt superior. At that time, I wasn’t conscious of my self-created mind-game at that time. I did however, notice the unpleasant and uncomfortable feelings I got while running this ‘program’ on other person and putting them in a labelled box. In addition, the unpleasant stupid side effect of this programming was that, once this person was put in a particular box, I couldn’t get them out anymore. The only option was to ignore the whole scanning process or to take any means to help me avoid having contact with these people. Well, you know that is a task doomed to fail.

Over the years, while listening to others talking about their faults, their dislikes or admiration to others, I learned that this was a program everyone was using to put themselves and others in a category by placing a well-designed and proven scanning system upon people which followed by putting them in a pre-determined box. Always using the same determination: worse, same, better. Whether it was hair, teeth, face, lips, boobs, butts, feet or toy, cloth, shoes and even behaviour…whatever, it was always judged in the same manner. And, I’m sure that we all had this same uncomfortable sense while it was happening, while we were running our well-designed scanning device, but were to unconscious and afraid of making the right decision. We didn’t understand what was really happening, not conscious of the mind-games we were creating, just accepting, no…taking it as something normal. Everybody does it, so why start asking questions and doubt ourselves even more. Yep, I’m sure this sounds familiar to you.
But why? Why did we start this in the first place? How come we took this as normal and not the fact that we are able to make conscious choices that will make us more involved in our own life?
Because we didn’t learn this. We didn’t learn about these qualities in the first place. We learned to follow the crowd. But what if, we did teach ourselves to become conscious of our own mind-games? What if we are able to consciously choose our thoughts, our beliefs and most important our direction of focus? It would mean that, for one, we wouldn’t be slave to our mind-game habits. It would mean that we can and are able to make conscious choices that would involve us (more) fully in our own lives. That’s a grand thing now, isn’t it?
But how do we do this?
It is as simple as it is complex and it definitely isn’t coming overnight. It take commitment, perseverance and courage.
Really? Why does it have to be so hard? Isn’t there an easy way for this? Like an app or so? Yes, it is expected that we want it to be easy and pre-made for us. That has always been the way before. All our life we took things pre-chewed, pre-existing, pre-known and pre-done. We were oblivious about the whole concept of consciousness. We didn’t learn to really feel and think consciously for ourselves. And now, because we didn’t learn this from day one, it makes it a bit harder to do this when we have packed ourselves with all kinds of handy habits, mind-games and well programmed settings. They are now well settled and deep in our system. The moment you start to steer them up they will rebel and try to dig themselves even deeper.
Then why would I even try?
Because you know, you want to! You know, while reading this, that you feel this little but strong voice yelling at you from deep down that tells you that it wants to get out. This little voice is you!

Okay…so, how do we do this?
Good, now we can get started. As I said before, it is a fail-fall-down-and-get-up-and-start-again procedure. The deeper you start digging, the harder the resistance will be. That’s okay. Don’t let this distract or discourage you. It merrily means you are doing damn well. Trust that.
The best thing is to do this together with others. Why? Because doing this with others will enable you to really put things into practise. You can do this alone, of course, but doing it together with people of whom you know are in the same process will fasten the cycle and each individual process. Also, and this is just as wonderful and important, doing this together with others might give the circumstances that you or the other encounter an issue that is really hard to handle. At a certain point, you might feel or think that you really dislike that person for hitting you so hard on that sensitive spot. And yet, this is one of those beautiful moments that comes to you as a gift to really let go of what was always keeping you from being free. We often see those moments as irritating and annoying but in reality; these are the little diamonds that were placed there for you to find on your path of life.
The True Nature Seminar gives that opportunity. A one-day intensive seminar, which takes place in the Netherlands several times a year. In this seminar, you will get in touch with your true nature, your qualities and will start to explore your own mind-games. You will be given the tools to change the old mind-sets to a free and non-conform state of being. I invite you to join this seminar. Not only will it be a great opportunity to give yourself a meaningful gift, it also is a beautiful gathering of loving people who all want the same thing: feel and experience love and joy again in their lives.
More information about this seminar you can find here:
http://inspire-encouraged.com/seminar.html

In this seminar you will have the opportunity to get familiar with the use of the following five powerful tools. With these tools you can change, alter and even get rid of old patterns, believes and mind-sets. However, and more important, it gives you the ability to train your consciousness and help you in choosing your choices more deliberately. In each case, it is to help you to find and practice a more and focussed self-love:

– FOCUSED THOUGHTS. Focused thoughts is a method in which you learn to channel your flow of thoughts. This will help you to create a higher focus and ability to deliberately choose your thoughts. By detaching ourselves from the never-ending flow of thoughts, we create an inner space to work from. With the right focus, a powerful chemistry will take place that gives us the ability to create a different reality and awareness.

– MIND SETTING. Mind setting is a way of resetting your mind. For this, we can use auto-suggestion. For the most part, we let ourselves be dwelt by everyday happenings. Because we ‘listen’ to all these different information’s that are thrown at us, we create a reality based on that information. However, when we realise that it is us who are the creators of our experiences, we can start shaping a new mindset. This can occur spontaneously. Most of the time this is a profound moment of awareness. It literally can cause an enlightenment sensation in which you suddenly realise you don’t have to fight anymore or a deep sense of oneness is felt. This, we might be able to call an altered mindset.

– AUTO SUGGESTION. Auto suggestion is a method where we learn to repeat on daily basis deliberately chosen thoughts, words and generate matching feelings to create a new pattern of thinking. Repetition will make the new thoughts sink in our ‘system’. However, it is very important to involve a matching emotion to secure the new chosen thoughts in our system.

– FAITH AND CONFIDENCE. Faith and Confidence is perhaps one of the more important ingredients for successfully altering a mindset. An altered mindset requires a strong confidence in ones own capability and a immovable faith that whatever is wanted will happen. Faith isn’t the same as trust. Faith is stronger, has much deeper roots. You can trust something without having faith in it. Faith and Confidence are both accessible through the use of auto-suggestion.

– DIRECT TOUCH. Direct touch is a beautiful exercise to get in touch with one’s own voice of the heart. It also is a great tool to discover your life purpose. When we are able to hear our hearts voice, it is as if we suddenly hear our own truth. It really can be an emotional encounter to suddenly get the information about you from you.

 

Are you interested in Inspire & Encouraged?
Feel free to contact me about the True Nature Seminar or any other topic.

With love, light and courage,

Alexander.

 

The Flower with four leaves

…a little story about being, choice, and awareness…
Once, there was a big tree. This tree had many flowers. They were beautiful white and all of them had four leaves. All but one. This one flower had five leaves.
The fact that this single flower had five leaves instead of four made it very special. It made this flower different from all the other flowers. At least, that’s what she made herself believe in the end. At first she didn’t know that she was different. She was just there, together with all the other flowers, being a flower and not aware of any sort of difference. But this big tree had an amazing ability. It was giving each flower the ability to think.
So, these flowers were all thinking the same thing: they thought they were beautiful. They all thought that their leaves were the most beautiful. That the yellow buds where complimenting the ivory white leaves and that having four leaves was the best amount a flower could have.

And this one flower with five leaves? She was looking just the same. She as well had a beautiful yellow bud and her leaves were beautiful ivory white as well. She had even five of them. But for all the other flowers this was strange. Why did she have five leaves? Why not four? And why was she different? They didn’t understand. So, they started to talk about her. They were telling each other that she was strange and awkward looking. And sometimes, after a period of hurtful silence, they laughed out loud and made jokes about her. Only because this flower had five leaves instead of three.

You can imagine what happens next. This flower started to feel sad and alone. She didn’t understand why all the other flowers didn’t like her. She didn’t do anything wrong.
More and more she started to close her leaves. Why wouldn’t she? Every time she would open her leaves, all she was getting were jokes and laughter from the other flowers.
And so, after some time, this flower became so sad that it started to wish that it was just like all the other flowers. She didn’t want to feel this. She wanted to feel loved. She wanted to be part of the rest. She wanted to be just white with four leaves instead of five.
And after some time she decided to change something about herself. Because she was now convinced that she was not beautiful. She was not like the others and therefor not as beautiful as they where. Now, she would make herself more beautiful. So, one night, she took all her courage and changed the colour of her five leaves from white to pink. It was really beautiful indeed. The flower was hoping that all the other flowers would see it and would find it so beautiful that they would love her and accept her. But instead, when the other flowers woke up the next morning and saw the new, pink leaves from this special flower, they started to laugh even louder. They were saying it was ridiculous. Why would she draw even more attention to herself? She was already weird. This was hurting the flower very much. She didn’t understand. Why would all these flowers be so mean? Why couldn’t they just be nice to her?
She became so sad and felt so alone that she closed her leaves for three days. Even on a beautiful sunny day, she didn’t want to open her leaves. She could hear the flowers around her chat and laugh, but was too afraid to open herself again.
Then, one night, she did something very daring. Something so drastic that all the other flowers would see that she is just like them! At midnight, when all the flowers were closed and asleep, she painfully forced one of her five leaves to fall off. It was hurting a lot. It was, as if she took a piece from herself, and threw it away. Silently, and with great sorrow, she watched how her leaf fell to the ground.

The next morning, when all the flowers woke up and started to open themselves for the first sunlight, she was full of anticipation to see if the flowers would notice what she did. And believe me, they did. They saw it. All the flowers were looking at that one leaf lying on the floor. All the flowers where watching her not knowing whether she did this on purpose or if it was an accident. Now she was the same. Just like them. There was no more difference between them and her. Immediately they became all very, very silent. It was as if they lost their voices. Not one of these flowers dared to see a word.

Then, something very special happened. From one moment to the next all the flowers started to lose their leaves. The floor beneath the tree became all white from all the leaves that were falling down. It was a real spectacle to see. For several minutes it was raining beautiful white leaves. It was a sight to see. But now, all the flowers were leafless. All but one! One flower did not lose her leaves. This flower, whom desired more than anything to be accepted, to be just like the other so she could feel loved, was the only one left with four leafs. She stood out. Again. She became special. Again!

Selfish in Nature

We are in nature selfish.

I wrote an article before on egocentric and selfishness. But as you can see I found it necessary to elaborate on this subject.

One of the first things we learn as we grow up from toddler to adolescence to adult is that we shouldn’t be selfish. We should think of others first before we may think of ourselves. We all know the sweet selfishness of the young toddlers when they take whatever they want, don’t want to share and make a whole commotion when another child is taking away their toy. And then we, the adults, do our utmost best to convince this little child, which has no clue what so ever on what you’re talking about, that it is not nice if you are not sharing. Of course we believe we do this with the best intentions and with the convincement that we are making a better person out of this child. It’s for his/her own good and benefit.
While for some part this is true, the intention can be sincere, most often the true motivation for adjusting this behaviour comes from our own childhood where we were being taught that sharing is a must and not liking that someone is taking away your toy is bad. Throughout our lives we are being believed, taught and convinced that selfishness is a bad thing. People are being praised, idolised because of their evidently selflessness while others are virtually being out casted for their supposing acts of selfishness.
And although, again, the intention for this believe might be sincere and coming from a good and healthy idea, the outcome is rather different from an actual lived attribute that is fully understood.

It is true that selfishness can be shaped in any form you want. It is true that you can use selfishness to practice an egocentric lifestyle. But what about self-love? Is self-love evenly to selfishness? I would like to say no but can imagine there is some clarification needed.
When you do a quick research about the meaning of selfishness, egocentric, self-centred or even narcissism, you will soon find that all these terms are described as a characteristic that most people would like to avoid or at least not to be judged on.
The consequences of this division, this need of classification of characteristic attributes, is that pretty everything is quickly thrown on this stack of interpretations.
From this stack I would like to take this one cart; self-love.

True love comes from loving yourself first.
Does this sound familiar? It’s a phrase you hear often these days. On social media for sure you’ll find that one of your friends has posted a beautiful photo with a similar text in it. Loving your self is a must these days. Gosh, there is a predicament. Love yourself but at the same time you need to avoid being selfish.
honestly, I don’t care much about all the designations. I do care, though, that you might feel obliged to hold back on loving yourself just for the sake of not being labelled selfish.
Self-love is a virtue. A self-given quality! Isn’t that a beautiful phrase? Self-given quality.
It already makes me happy by saying it.
But what does self-love mean? For sure it doesn’t mean that you put your own interest above others. Although sometimes you need to do so. And here we have to go back to the previously mentioned designations.

It is in no way possible to distinguish human behaviour in any sort of classifications. When you choose to live on this planet, you did so with the consciousness of freedom. Free in making choices, free in interpretation and free in how and what things mean to you. Classification, uniformity or designations are tools to make things understandable. They are not, by all means, laws to live by. All the words in the category selfish, egocentric, etc. have a general given explanation. Not to give you an ultimate law of how it is but to generally explain what is meant with using these words. It is so important to discover your own conclusion, your own meaning to certain given qualities. Such as self-love. You have an enormous valuable, rich and elaborate dictionary to your disposal, called ‘your heart’. If from anything you want to know whether feel true about it, whether it is something honest to you or a given truth, ask your heart. Feel what your heart tells you, for trust me it will not come to you in beautiful intelligent phrases that you can understand using your brain. It is that soft tone of heart, that utterly pure but oh so serene sensation that you get when being on the right path. That feeling of joy that you only experience when you speak your truth.
These are all forms of expressing self-love. It can include as many different ways of expressing as there are people. There is no one way. There is only your way!
Self-love can mean that you give yourself the liberty to make mistakes. To fender through life never really knowing who you are or what you want from life. It can include that you willingly and consciously choose to live alone. That you deliberately decide to think of yourself before others just for the sake of learning to love yourself. It honestly is beautiful to explore the love for yourself. Give yourself room, give yourself ability and perhaps for most; give yourself the pleasure of making mistakes. As I mentioned before in previous post, you have nothing to live up to. There is absolutely nothing you have to achieve! Nothing you have to earn or do before you can be what you want to be.
You are already complete!