The Love for Ourselves

Our sense, believes on self-acceptance, our ability to have a certain degree in experiencing love for ourselves, is greatly depending on the ability to become aware and eventually free ourselves from earlier created mind-games, beliefs and convictions.
For example, we all have a certain idea about beauty. And I don’t mean the commercial kind of beauty that is torpedoed at us. I’m talking about the beauty that we try to aim for as individuals and the one in which we compare ourselves with our direct surrounding. We admire or dislike others by the mere capacity of liking ourselves. How many of us can honestly say that they found themselves totally and absolutely beautiful? Not many would be my guess. But did you know that when you are scanning around the people around you, unconsciously you are scanning from your own pre-programmed mind-set to seek out and categorise every person that is around you? Did you know that every time you look at another person, all kind of systems are set in motion to figger out where this person is fitting in? Most of the time we use three different categories: worse, same, better.
Here is an example:
For me, my teeth, next to the fact that I thought I was excessively skinny, had always been that part of my body that I didn’t like. When I was young, I hated my teeth. It was ratter late, in my thirties that I, with the encouragement of my wife, had my teeth straighten out. It was after doing so that I kind of had peace with them but still, not in love with them. However, I realized that I was scanning, with a strong comparing program, other people and judging them by their teeth. If someone had better teeth than mine, I felt insecure, if someone had similar teeth as mine, I felt equal. If they had worse teeth than I did, I felt superior. At that time, I wasn’t conscious of my self-created mind-game at that time. I did however, notice the unpleasant and uncomfortable feelings I got while running this ‘program’ on other person and putting them in a labelled box. In addition, the unpleasant stupid side effect of this programming was that, once this person was put in a particular box, I couldn’t get them out anymore. The only option was to ignore the whole scanning process or to take any means to help me avoid having contact with these people. Well, you know that is a task doomed to fail.

Over the years, while listening to others talking about their faults, their dislikes or admiration to others, I learned that this was a program everyone was using to put themselves and others in a category by placing a well-designed and proven scanning system upon people which followed by putting them in a pre-determined box. Always using the same determination: worse, same, better. Whether it was hair, teeth, face, lips, boobs, butts, feet or toy, cloth, shoes and even behaviour…whatever, it was always judged in the same manner. And, I’m sure that we all had this same uncomfortable sense while it was happening, while we were running our well-designed scanning device, but were to unconscious and afraid of making the right decision. We didn’t understand what was really happening, not conscious of the mind-games we were creating, just accepting, no…taking it as something normal. Everybody does it, so why start asking questions and doubt ourselves even more. Yep, I’m sure this sounds familiar to you.
But why? Why did we start this in the first place? How come we took this as normal and not the fact that we are able to make conscious choices that will make us more involved in our own life?
Because we didn’t learn this. We didn’t learn about these qualities in the first place. We learned to follow the crowd. But what if, we did teach ourselves to become conscious of our own mind-games? What if we are able to consciously choose our thoughts, our beliefs and most important our direction of focus? It would mean that, for one, we wouldn’t be slave to our mind-game habits. It would mean that we can and are able to make conscious choices that would involve us (more) fully in our own lives. That’s a grand thing now, isn’t it?
But how do we do this?
It is as simple as it is complex and it definitely isn’t coming overnight. It take commitment, perseverance and courage.
Really? Why does it have to be so hard? Isn’t there an easy way for this? Like an app or so? Yes, it is expected that we want it to be easy and pre-made for us. That has always been the way before. All our life we took things pre-chewed, pre-existing, pre-known and pre-done. We were oblivious about the whole concept of consciousness. We didn’t learn to really feel and think consciously for ourselves. And now, because we didn’t learn this from day one, it makes it a bit harder to do this when we have packed ourselves with all kinds of handy habits, mind-games and well programmed settings. They are now well settled and deep in our system. The moment you start to steer them up they will rebel and try to dig themselves even deeper.
Then why would I even try?
Because you know, you want to! You know, while reading this, that you feel this little but strong voice yelling at you from deep down that tells you that it wants to get out. This little voice is you!

Okay…so, how do we do this?
Good, now we can get started. As I said before, it is a fail-fall-down-and-get-up-and-start-again procedure. The deeper you start digging, the harder the resistance will be. That’s okay. Don’t let this distract or discourage you. It merrily means you are doing damn well. Trust that.
The best thing is to do this together with others. Why? Because doing this with others will enable you to really put things into practise. You can do this alone, of course, but doing it together with people of whom you know are in the same process will fasten the cycle and each individual process. Also, and this is just as wonderful and important, doing this together with others might give the circumstances that you or the other encounter an issue that is really hard to handle. At a certain point, you might feel or think that you really dislike that person for hitting you so hard on that sensitive spot. And yet, this is one of those beautiful moments that comes to you as a gift to really let go of what was always keeping you from being free. We often see those moments as irritating and annoying but in reality; these are the little diamonds that were placed there for you to find on your path of life.
The True Nature Seminar gives that opportunity. A one-day intensive seminar, which takes place in the Netherlands several times a year. In this seminar, you will get in touch with your true nature, your qualities and will start to explore your own mind-games. You will be given the tools to change the old mind-sets to a free and non-conform state of being. I invite you to join this seminar. Not only will it be a great opportunity to give yourself a meaningful gift, it also is a beautiful gathering of loving people who all want the same thing: feel and experience love and joy again in their lives.
More information about this seminar you can find here:
http://inspire-encouraged.com/seminar.html

In this seminar you will have the opportunity to get familiar with the use of the following five powerful tools. With these tools you can change, alter and even get rid of old patterns, believes and mind-sets. However, and more important, it gives you the ability to train your consciousness and help you in choosing your choices more deliberately. In each case, it is to help you to find and practice a more and focussed self-love:

– FOCUSED THOUGHTS. Focused thoughts is a method in which you learn to channel your flow of thoughts. This will help you to create a higher focus and ability to deliberately choose your thoughts. By detaching ourselves from the never-ending flow of thoughts, we create an inner space to work from. With the right focus, a powerful chemistry will take place that gives us the ability to create a different reality and awareness.

– MIND SETTING. Mind setting is a way of resetting your mind. For this, we can use auto-suggestion. For the most part, we let ourselves be dwelt by everyday happenings. Because we ‘listen’ to all these different information’s that are thrown at us, we create a reality based on that information. However, when we realise that it is us who are the creators of our experiences, we can start shaping a new mindset. This can occur spontaneously. Most of the time this is a profound moment of awareness. It literally can cause an enlightenment sensation in which you suddenly realise you don’t have to fight anymore or a deep sense of oneness is felt. This, we might be able to call an altered mindset.

– AUTO SUGGESTION. Auto suggestion is a method where we learn to repeat on daily basis deliberately chosen thoughts, words and generate matching feelings to create a new pattern of thinking. Repetition will make the new thoughts sink in our ‘system’. However, it is very important to involve a matching emotion to secure the new chosen thoughts in our system.

– FAITH AND CONFIDENCE. Faith and Confidence is perhaps one of the more important ingredients for successfully altering a mindset. An altered mindset requires a strong confidence in ones own capability and a immovable faith that whatever is wanted will happen. Faith isn’t the same as trust. Faith is stronger, has much deeper roots. You can trust something without having faith in it. Faith and Confidence are both accessible through the use of auto-suggestion.

– DIRECT TOUCH. Direct touch is a beautiful exercise to get in touch with one’s own voice of the heart. It also is a great tool to discover your life purpose. When we are able to hear our hearts voice, it is as if we suddenly hear our own truth. It really can be an emotional encounter to suddenly get the information about you from you.

 

Are you interested in Inspire & Encouraged?
Feel free to contact me about the True Nature Seminar or any other topic.

With love, light and courage,

Alexander.

 

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FINDING YOURSELF, LETTING GO AND TAKING CONTROL.

Finding one’s self has become one of the most recalled things to do over the years.
A number on your bucket list. A thing you have to do.

Whether you took that conclusion yourself or you were inspired to do this by a spiritual movement or teacher, maybe even by the circumstances at work. It seems that where ever you go this topic is spoken of one way or another.

But at the same time we want to have security and are often confronted with the difficulties of letting go of all that we love and is giving us a sense of security. We want to have a life according to certain standards in which we feel safe, secure and have enjoyable and pleasant experiences. Can these two things be combined in harmony?

It is true that there is something compelling in the quest of finding the truth about who and what you are. By knowing who you are and even by knowing what you are, you most likely will know your purpose for this chosen life. And having a sense of purpose is seen as an enormous gift. Another number on your bucket list.
But what is your motivation for wanting to know who or what you are? Is it the need for security? Or is it unexplainable inner call that is telling you to go and find yourself? And is purpose in life a fixed thing or does it change while being practised? Does it all even matter?

An important, let’s call it ingredient, that will come your way on this road of exploring who you are, is the necessity for letting go and to go with the flow.
Why is this so relevant?
Something I noticed over the years when being in contact with people who seem to be in peace, to a certain level, with whom they are and seem to have a clear vision of their purpose in life, is that these people are most of the time open to change. They don’t hold on to a certain idea of how things should be but more flow and act on what is relevant for that moment. This can be interpreted in little moments but as well in relatively longer periods of time. For example, with jobs and undertakings.
It shows us that nothing is fixed. Nothing is written out, secure or certain. We crave for safety, security and certainty and are often in total loss when we are confronted with anything out of our control.
Let’s look at this for a moment: control. We use this word easy enough to imply that whatever went out of control is out of our control.
But are we supposed to be in control? Control over what?
This is a very important question. And the answer might be seen as a contradiction but it isn’t.
Ask yourself why you think you need to control. what would be the answer?
Is it because you feel that certain events happen ‘to’ you instead of ‘by’ you? Or because we are conditioned with the idea that bad or unpleasant things are always out of our intention because nobody wants things to happen that make them unhappy?
Or is it the idea that if you create control as much as possible over situations that you might at least have a bit of influence on how thing go as to give yourself the idea that you protect you and your surrounding from bad things to happen.
These questions aren’t easy to answer and will differ from one person to another. But to create some sort of desired change in this we need to accept one important thing:

Focussing on things that we do not want to happen will empower those things in happening.
What does this mean in short? It means that we are responsible for all that happens within our personal experience. All attention we give to events we want to avoid will eventually take us to an experience in which that what is being avoided will be expressed according to an appropriate need. Just as the attention we give to events we do want to happen will take us to a matching experience.

And this is where you do need to take control!
Not to protect yourself from what you don’t want but to create what you desire. That is basically the only control you will need to take. And you will soon discover that this kind of control isn’t as stressful, tiresome or demanding as the previous kind of control.
The flipside of this coin is to just go with the flow. This is deliberately choosing to live your life unconsciously. Going with the flow is a recommended thing to do but it is sometimes misplaced by putting yourself in the role of a victim of circumstances. Going with the flow is definitely not that. Going with the flow means that you consciously take full responsibility for your thoughts and actions and accept all consequences coming from your thoughts and actions.
We can call this consciously and deliberately taking control over your life in which you consciously and deliberately create your own reality.

How is this related to finding yourself?
Something more pressing here is to try to answer this question:
Who is it that you’re trying to find? Probably you will answer by saying that you hope to find yourself. Of course. But who or what is that? Really, try to focus on this question, who is it that you are trying to find?
Don’t get me wrong, I do encourage you to start this quest in finding yourself. But I would like to start by rephrasing the intention; start being who you are.
Finding yourself implies that you either lost yourself or never where yourself. Gosh, do you feel the anxiety and desperateness in this statement? Please read this article I wrote some time ago about acceptance.

Just as going with the flow is an important ‘ingredient’ for giving yourself the space to be who you want to be, so is acceptance. Don’t start your quest by first listing all the things in yourself that you are not cool with and then find an equivalent to replace it. Just skip this step and jump immediately to the process of taking yourself, seeing yourself and accepting yourself just and fully as you are! Now at this very moment.
Finding yourself is illusive! It will be a start of a never ending quest in which you eventually will discover that you really already are who you have been trying to find.
Being who you are, on the other hand, is an absolute must to fulfil this life that you chose to live.
The common mistake made, or better to say confusion, is to think that you first have to know who you are (by finding yourself) before you can be who you are. Wrong!
You do not even have to know who you are to actually be! In some cases, especially taken from a Buddhist perspective, it is considered as a great obstacle to wanting to know who you are. Being is not knowing! Knowing is not being! Understanding who or what you are, on the other hand, is coming from the heart and is dipped in loving intentions. This understanding comes from intellect and heart working together. Knowledge and love hand in hand. Love for yourself in all its imperfect perfection and insecure security!
‘to be or not to be’ van William Shakespeare, although coming from a different perspective does says it all. To be fully alive, to accept, to love and to fully give yourself the liberty to be who you want to be. Or, not to be and live your life according to assumptions, expectations and unconscious circumstances in which you feel you are the ball that is played by something else then yourself. In other words, not alive but dead.

We, as energetic nun-corporal beings, are complete. Directly connected to the source, which for some is god or the universe, we are indeed complete. But as corporal human beings we chose for a life of great contradictions and sometimes almost diabolic circumstances in which we develop an immense strong craving for security. We must learn to develop and master the harmonic use of our heart with our intellect. Both are still and often divided and seen as two opposites. But nothing could be further from the truth, they are both yours and neither one of them is to be denied in its existence. Use them naturally and intuitively.

WHY JOY (IN PAINTING) IS SO IMPORTANT

Over the years, besides teaching about painting I try to make the students aware of everything that is involved in the process of painting, how ones ability to become one with the moment has a strong influence on the success. One particular thing though, always seem to a main obstacle: the struggle to reach a certain aim. And in most cases times I tell my students how important it is to have fun in what they’re doing. I thought I could elaborate on this a bit.

Often, and this doesn’t only occurs with those who start painting, during a painting process you can find yourself coming to a point where you feel that you are stuck. This can have several different causes. For example not understanding certain technique, blocked by trying to much to understand what it is that you are painting, being convinced that you just can’t do it or any other circumstrances that implies that things are not going the way you want it. It is true, and I would be the last one to say it’s not, that getting a decent sense of technique, knowledge on material and to know at least the basics on what paint and medium does while working with it, is inevitable for learning the art of painting. With everything you wish to achieve there comes a time you will have to be on the learning side of the table to fill yourself with any given and available knowledge on what it is that you want to achive. And overcoming that feeling of being stuck or being blocked is, just as learning a specific technique, a attribute that can be mastered.

Painting should be a joy. The whole process should fill you with happiness, joy! Isn’t that a strong statement that implies that without it…well, you might as well give up. No. it is quite the opposite. But, to be clear, it is not the hilarious and excited kind of joy. More a inner happiness and sense of peace.
How many times did you experienced this feeling that you completely lost track of time, forgot where you are or who you are and was absorbed by the process of painting? And how many times did you experience that you where blocked? Couldn’t get what you wanted, seemingly having totally lost that long desired and appreciated ‘touch’. How many times did you experience that anger, that uncontrolable feeling of throwing that painting across the room? Both are magical moments which, with a paradoxale twist, are entwined together.
But how do you get yourself (back) in that zone of enjoying the whole process? How do you get yourself from outraged to serene calm and enjoying the process?

Well, if you’re indeed as angry that even the fires of hell don’t seem to upset you anymore, I think you indeed better take some distance from your process and have a good cup of relaxing tea. The idea is to not let yourself enter a state of frenzy. How? By cultivating one important espacts in the painting process: JOY. How do we do this? For one thing by focussing on the process only. Not on what it has to become. Not on how detailed it has to be and not on how many more layers, time and effort it needs before it’s perfect. No. Stop bothering yourself. You will get there anyway. Don’t rush yourself by focussing on the irrelevant stuff. Focus on what gives the most pleasure, the most joy: In this case Painting!! And I’m sure that this isn’t so hard for you. Because you choose to paint, to learn about painting, techniques and stuff, because it gives you so much joy.

It is the same with all the other stuff in life. I know, that when you are learning it might feel that this natural state of being in the flow and enjoying the fact that you don’t have to think about what the best approach is for this particular subject you want to paint, is hard to reach. But it isn’t. It isn’t your knowledge that will give you joy. It isn’t the experience that will give you joy. It is your own mindset that makes you choose. So choose to focus only on the process of painting. And this doesn’t mean that you don’t have to study hard to gain the appropiate know how, this means that this process includes the studies you make to learn, to make something your own or to understand matter. All those things should be done with the joy of the process. It is the same with drawing an object. Once you try to interpretate the object as something you can understand logically you will start to make weird mistakes. You disconnect yourself from the object by trying to understand what it is. But once you let this interpretation go and just look, you will amaze yourself by drawing exactly what you see.

So go out there and have fun! Enjoy whatever it is you’re doing! Really…!!! Do it!!

Right and wrong

An article written….

Last week I was being interviewed about an interesting topic: “Jesus”.This interview took place as part of a documentary. The focus was to get different kind of perspectives together about Jesus. 

During this interview an interesting sub-topic appeared (which couldn’t be attended accordingly due to a lack of relevancy to the subject) that I would like to address here.

In previous post I mentioned it as well but now I thought it be more relevant to write about it.

From the moment we hit this world as a new born we immediately are confronted with the sense that we have to make choices between one thing and another. But it doesn’t stop there. The ability to make a choice is an utmost important, valuable and conscious created ability and attribute for us to re-invent the experience of love. 

But we created this world so far that it has an immense strong distinction between things that are considered to be right and things that are considered to be wrong. 

To some point of perspective this sense of difference is inevitable to fully experience a linear reality experience. It gives the ability to experience the full possibility of choice making and to have the possibility to get an unlimited variety in how to experience one single moment in an unlimited amount of different ways. 

But an important element, call it insight, is almost purposely or consciously forgotten in this process of experiencing all this wonder. It is the inner knowing that in the root of our being this sense of difference, this separation and sense of right and wrong, does not exist. 

It feels almost impossible to put this “knowing” in words because this “knowledge” comes from a source where there is absolute no separation. How does one translate something which is shapeless, formless and consist utterly out of energy? Thank the universe there is no right or wrong way to do this 🙂

All is one. Including our lives and experiences now. And yet within this linear live we created for ourselves, on one hand it is imperative that we experience this sense of right and wrong, and on the other hand we need to remember what we are and merge it all together as to come to the point that we fully see, feel and experience that all is indeed one. It is a splendid paradox in grandeur. 

 

We are more than just this physical body. We are one with the source. Not subjects to or children from the source. No. We are part of it in the same way that a drop of water is the same as the sea. On its own it might have a partial different structure but when back in the sea it is the sea. 

When you realize this and feel it in your being you can do nothing but feel the joy and laugh about it…about everything. Because then you realize how insignificant, laughable, hilarious and beautiful our reality really is. 
So….right and wrong? Yes and no?

I leave it open. Realizing that nothing is fixed, including the concept of right and wrong, might give you a sense of freedom, an insight in how your reality is formed and how you move in this. 

As I often tell my students in art class; “There is no right or wrong way to do something. Try not to focus on how to achieve your goal but only on what you want and enjoy doing it. The process of doing knows very well how to do it or how to get where you want to be.”
Enjoy!

Egocentric or Selfishness

Egocentric and selfishness. Two words that became heavy on interpretation.
There is a difference but yet both words are used in the same manner.

Ego centrism is an inability to understand or assume any perspective other than their own.
Selfishness is being concerned for oneself or one’s own advantage, pleasure, or welfare, regardless of others.

So far for what tradition has to say about these words

What if those interpretations are not as solid as we always thought they were? Are morals really fixed? Are they universal true?
What if these words do not actual resonate unless one understands that it must be within a collective agreement.
To choose ones self before anything else, to deliberately choose not to help someone, to leave someone behind for the profit of ones self, to live only for your own profit is often seen as being selfish or egocentric.
But where does this judgement come from? What gives us de idea that someone is selfish? Is it that person’s trade or behavior or is it our own lack of understanding, our lack of self knowledge and lack of love for ourselves?
If one would question someone else his or her behavior, is this done out of what? True concern to create a better situation that will benefit you and others? Why would someone want to question someone else’s behavior in the first place. Discomfort in one’s own reality? Why should one not choose for love for ones self?

And there lies the key to selfishness. The beautiful truth about selfishness is that it is a radiating and fulfilling choice or wish to feel love for ones self. And this could very well mean that you do or choose things that, in the eye of your surrounding, can be judged as selfish or egocentric. Well, they are right. Because you choose to love your self. You choose to be happy. And who on earth can deny you your happiness.
It is a common interpretation for the way it was taught and we just take it for the truth. But if we defy this common agreement we can start to think, believe and act according to what our inner guiding system tells us.

look at our children for example. before they are confronted with our convictions, our believes and our habits they are the innocence and pure souls that know very well what they want and do not want. They feel nothing but love and are fully open to everything that hits there world. They do not feel any judgement to what ever kind of behavior that is thrown at them. Only when they are purposely told that they have to alter there own true nature and to become self conscious and aware of their behavior just to become what is expected from their surrounding, their journey of self denial, lies and adapting to there surrounding is started to answer the need for acceptance and non disturbance from that same surrounding.

But just as those innocence young children we all are splendid accessible, all containing encyclopedia.
How about opening that amazing source you are and start deciding for yourself what is good for you, what makes you happy and what makes you tick! The really lovable world that we are looking for is in our selves. The living together part comes from accepting one’s self fully and from there the acceptance for difference is automatically made.

No biggy there… 😄

20 december 2020…There is a biggy here!
Reading back on this topic, which I wrote I don’t remember when and I don’t care, I still do see the evident truth of my careful chosen words but it is, just as evidently, not true at al at the same time. Yes, we grow – even though it is within an illusion – and within this growth we learn that some writings are not as important as the seemed at the moment it was written. Therefor a small, I’m not gonna explain to much on why and what or even considering that I have to explain myself, adding to this writing which, for that matter, can be added to any of my previous writting because it covers really everything else. 
Being egocentric or selfish is meaningless! If I even would consider that there is a correct way of saying anything, which I feel less and less, I could say that from the above lines the following is the most accurate of all: 
...”these words do not actual resonate unless one understands that it must be within a collective agreement.”...
For the rest of the carerfull written words you can say it is all bullocks! 
Any describtion of behavior is and will never be otherwise nothing more than a describtion within an illusive world in which we agreed that certain behavior is either negative or positive. Because neither of those truly exist it is therefor impossible to clearify that something is different than something other. Nothing exist outside our own interpretation, outside our never ending production of thoughts. 
Happiness? give me a break! What was I thinking! happiness is, just as any other proclaimed announcement such as egocentric or selfishness, an idea, a thought, which on itself has no meaning, no existance, nothing of any kind. 

Please…although I could continue to elaborate on this empty subject I’m not. Just go and start looking in your mirrow for an hour and tell me what you find…

STOP LOOKING

!STOP LOOKING!
“Stop looking for answers and go create your own.”

After a periode of time where I indulge myself with the idea that I have some words of wisdom to share, that my insights matter to others, I always come to a point where I can see very clearly that the only thing I do is indeed indulge myself and talk to myself. 

I’m sure that some frases, some words or lines help others to clearify their own ideas and thought. I know from experience that reading a book about a certain subject can have an enormous influence on how you see, feel and experience life. But it all comes back to one point of focus and that is your own. It’s the enlignment of frequences for that single moment that makes it possible for you to receive exactly that what you want to receive. Your attention will never be drown to something you did not wish for consciuously or unconsciously. 

The interesting turn in this is that with this insight, this knowledge, you can understand that at all times it is you who makes your truth, your learning materials, your insights and your teachings. 

Only you create the circumstances to accept and receive teachings or insights. Someone from your surrounding might have some trigger material for you to wake up that particular part of you but who was it that brought this someone into your experience? Yes, that was you. 

So dear me and dear all,

GO AND CREATE YOUR OWN ANSWERS. 

Take, hear, read and create everything with the knowledge that it is and always was you who is the master of your reality. 

Isn’t that a joyful thing to know 😄

NOW

To describe what I want to share is sometimes hard. Sometimes, the topic is energy. Energy is shapeless and always changing. Nothing to grab on and has no handles to take with your intelectual mind.  That is the main lead I have here.

A very important part in life is the knowledge, knowing and feeling that you are already complete and whole.  This sense of recognition is basically understanding what you are and feeling the embracement of your self. Becoming conscious of your (true) self.

When you start to discover that the love you experience, the allowence that you feel, the acceptance that you experience is all you, you will see, feel and know that nothing, really nothing is different from you.  You are already healed. There is nothing you need to fix, to make better or to uplift to a next level. You don’t have to achieve anything or prepare for a higher dimension because you are already there where you can and will find what you’re looking for.

We live in an amazing world where we choose how to manifest our life. This is not an obligation but a joy. This life is not a journey but a joy. This choice is not put on you but was chosen by you for joy. This life is not a process of learning but to remember and to enjoy.  You can not fail! Because there is no one and nothing to judge over you. If you feel you have to achieve something, that you need to prove something or to reach something it is only because you put those bounderies there for yourself so you can do what you choose to do. But you do this out of your own free will and from your wholeness and completeness.

I know this sounds contradictional and it does sound as something you need to reach or achive. But it isn’t.