The influences of HSP and Introvert.

 

During the last few month something interesting took place. Since more than 6 month I was experiencing some difficulties while practicing the part-time job  I have working with children.

It started with a confrontation that I should be more interactive with my co-workers. According to what was said I was working too much on my own little island. I wasn’t sure what to do with this feedback. My first consideration was to figger out a way to set things right and I started to force myself to be more interactive and do what was expected from me. The result was that I felt insecure en unnatural in my behavior. So I kind of dropped it and went back to my nice little island.

As you probably can guess there was another knocking on my beautiful wooden door as soon as there was an opportunity to do so. Again I was confronted with the fact that I lacked the skill of interacting and seek others opinion about the choices and decisions I made.

It left me angry and misunderstood.
Why couldn’t they understand my view on this matter?
Why couldn’t they trust that I had everything under control?

It remained a question until I run into an article about being an introvert in a working situation written by Susan Biali.

It was as if I was reading a story about me. So much of what was written I could relate to and recognized. So I started to become more familiar with the concept introversion and high sensitive people (HSP). Here it was mentioned that most people who seem to have the characteristics of an introvert are commonly also highly sensitive people. Perhaps one could say that when someone is born with a high sensitivity in a surrounding that is mainly focused on extroversion are easy to develop an introspective character to coop with their high sensitivity in an extroversive  society.

The more I read about it, the more I started to recognize the characteristic parts of an introvert in myself.
But an interesting thing happened though, although by receiving this knowledge I was able to create some peace and rest about these specific characteristics I created over the years. It really helps sometimes to find some sort of understanding and recognition in your own behavior especially when yours is being questioned by your surrounding.
But at the same time I wanted to ensure that this new information would not become an established order within my creation. That is to say that this knowledge about introversion should not become my excuse for my behavior.

Character doesn’t make the person. The person is the form in which the energy is shaped because the energy itself is shapeless. Character is formed by choice. Choices that are made before the actual manifestation as a person and during the life as that person.

But let’s go back to the topic on introversion in a working place.

I think I’m not far off by saying that most working places are still unaware of the full potentials of their employees. Although more and more people, and therefore companies, are becoming aware of subtle changes that are accuring around and in themselves, it is still accurate to say that most companies are afraid to make a leap into an environment that might seem to be uncontrollable.  The safest thing to do is indeed hold on to what one knows and in this case is a working environment that is based on extroversion. The one who speaks first, the one who speaks the most or the loudest will be heard, the one who speaks afterwards, thinks before speaking or doesn’t want to speak at all is easily overlooked.
But being save doesn’t always work. And as well; this being save can be interpreted in different ways.
One thing that should not be a choice for safety is to decide to deny your natural character to fulfill the expectations of your surrounding, in this case the working place. A company might want you to adjust to their current believe that everyone should have the same working skills as being assertive and aggressive when it comes to giving opinions and making decisions. And although everyone, extrovert or introvert, could, till a certain level, do this it requires an enormous unnatural effort from someone who is born with the characteristics of an introvert.

The unfortunate thing is that in most working places it isn’t realized and valued that the possibilities and opportunities they receive when acknowledging the introversion of people, they are missing an enormous value of knowledge and working force that can be obtained by these people who are considered to be introvert.
But let us not forget: It is not your surrounding that needs to adjust to your characteristics. It is and will always be you who needs to make the choices that will lead you to the happiness and fulfilling life that you are aiming for.
it is what I have been trying to say now for some time. It is not about getting everybody on the same line. It is about letting everybody have the unconditional freedom to be what they need to be. And this is and can only be considered and decided by the person in question.
This is what I try to say in the previous post: “NOW” and “STOP LOOKING“.

It is funny and beautiful at the same time to see how those little fragments and possibilities of knowledge and insight always seem to fall into place when you need them to know.

If you like to know more about introversion and extroversion? Here are some interesting links:
https://www.csuchico.edu/eap/docs/empathia-advisor2014-04-IntrovertsExtroverts_and_the_Workplace.pdf

http://career-advice.monster.com/in-the-office/workplace-issues/understand-workplace-introverts/article.aspx

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Egocentric or Selfishness

Egocentric and selfishness. Two words that became heavy on interpretation.
There is a difference but yet both words are used in the same manner.

Ego centrism is an inability to understand or assume any perspective other than their own.
Selfishness is being concerned for oneself or one’s own advantage, pleasure, or welfare, regardless of others.

So far for what tradition has to say about these words

What if those interpretations are not as solid as we always thought they were? Are morals really fixed? Are they universal true?
What if these words do not actual resonate unless one understands that it must be within a collective agreement.
To choose ones self before anything else, to deliberately choose not to help someone, to leave someone behind for the profit of ones self, to live only for your own profit is often seen as being selfish or egocentric.
But where does this judgement come from? What gives us de idea that someone is selfish? Is it that person’s trade or behavior or is it our own lack of understanding, our lack of self knowledge and lack of love for ourselves?
If one would question someone else his or her behavior, is this done out of what? True concern to create a better situation that will benefit you and others? Why would someone want to question someone else’s behavior in the first place. Discomfort in one’s own reality? Why should one not choose for love for ones self?

And there lies the key to selfishness. The beautiful truth about selfishness is that it is a radiating and fulfilling choice to feel love for ones self. And this could very well mean that you do or choose things that, in the eye of your surrounding, can be judged as selfish or egocentric. Well, they are right. Because you choose to love your self. You choose to be happy. And who on earth can deny you your happiness.
It is a common interpretation for the way it was taught and we just take it for the truth. But if we defy this common agreement we can start to think, believe and act according to what our inner guiding system tells us.

look at our children for example. before they are confronted with our convictions, our believes and our habits they are the innocence and pure souls that know very well what they want and do not want. They feel nothing but love and are fully open to everything that hits there world. They do not feel any judgement to what ever kind of behavior that is thrown at them. Only when they are purposely told that they have to alter there own true nature and to become self conscious and aware of their behavior just to become what is expected from their surrounding, their journey of self denial, lies and adapting to there surrounding is started to answer the need for acceptance and non disturbance from that same surrounding.

But just as those innocence young children we all are splendid accessible, all containing encyclopedia.
How about opening that amazing source you are and start deciding for yourself what is good for you, what makes you happy and what makes you tick! The really lovable world that we are looking for is in our selves. The living together part comes from accepting one’s self fully and from there the acceptance for difference is automatically made.

No biggy there… 😄

STOP LOOKING

!STOP LOOKING!
“Stop looking for answers and go create your own.”

After a periode of time where I indulge myself with the idea that I have some words of wisdom to share, that my insights matter to others, I always come to a point where I can see very clearly that the only thing I do is indeed indulge myself and talk to myself. 

I’m sure that some frases, some words or lines help others to clearify their own ideas and thought. I know from experience that reading a book about a certain subject can have an enormous influence on how you see, feel and experience life. But it all comes back to one point of focus and that is your own. It’s the enlignment of frequences for that single moment that makes it possible for you to receive exactly that what you want to receive. Your attention will never be drown to something you did not wish for consciuously or unconsciously. 

The interesting turn in this is that with this insight, this knowledge, you can understand that at all times it is you who makes your truth, your learning materials, your insights and your teachings. 

Only you create the circumstances to accept and receive teachings or insights. Someone from your surrounding might have some trigger material for you to wake up that particular part of you but who was it that brought this someone into your experience? Yes, that was you. 

So dear me and dear all,

GO AND CREATE YOUR OWN ANSWERS. 

Take, hear, read and create everything with the knowledge that it is and always was you who is the master of your reality. 

Isn’t that a joyful thing to know 😄

NOW

To describe what I want to share is sometimes hard. Sometimes, the topic is energy. Energy is shapeless and always changing. Nothing to grab on and has no handles to take with your intelectual mind.  That is the main lead I have here.

A very important part in life is the knowledge, knowing and feeling that you are already complete and whole.  This sense of recognition is basically understanding what you are and feeling the embracement of your self. Becoming conscious of your (true) self.

When you start to discover that the love you experience, the allowence that you feel, the acceptance that you experience is all you, you will see, feel and know that nothing, really nothing is different from you.  You are already healed. There is nothing you need to fix, to make better or to uplift to a next level. You don’t have to achieve anything or prepare for a higher dimension because you are already there where you can and will find what you’re looking for.

We live in an amazing world where we choose how to manifest our life. This is not an obligation but a joy. This life is not a journey but a joy. This choice is not put on you but was chosen by you for joy. This life is not a process of learning but to remember and to enjoy.  You can not fail! Because there is no one and nothing to judge over you. If you feel you have to achieve something, that you need to prove something or to reach something it is only because you put those bounderies there for yourself so you can do what you choose to do. But you do this out of your own free will and from your wholeness and completeness.

I know this sounds contradictional and it does sound as something you need to reach or achive. But it isn’t.

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Food. Nutrition or Energy.

More and more we come to be aware of the sensitivity of food and how we respond to it. Tests are done and many conclusions are made.

But an important aspect seem to be ignored or left out which I would like to address here.

Food is not just a physiological product that has nutritional benefits. All the information about food, its nutritious value, vitamins and minerals and so on, is just a small part of the whole aspect of food and actually much less important than you think.
Unfortunately this is what is focused on due to the food industry, marketing and mostly in the health and fitness world. You are taught and are being convinced what is best to eat to get the desired result.
But there are important elements being left out in this.

Food is for most energy. We are for most energy. Energy responds to energy. Chinese and old western medicine are well known with the benefits of each food and its energetic origin or signature.
The nutritious value of food is only present because of the energetic signature or better said; its source energy. Not the other way around.

Now what happens if your personal energy, which is directly connected to your metabolism, is out of focus, is not how it should be. Then the connection to any kind of food you eat can’t be made.

Due to a poor emotional ventilation your metabolic system isn’t able to digest whatever food you are taking. You can, and probably tried, as many diets as you can endure but nothing will seem to work for you.
Having stress at work, or working for something you don’t believe in, has a major effect on how your body takes the food that is given. Whatever food you eat has its own personal energy. On itself this is no problem unless the receiving vessel (which is your body) itself is energetic in dis-balance. Than the vessel, won’t be able to digest the food properly. The energy from this food will be stored and not used. Energy that will be manifested as body weight that we have to carry with us because we do not know what else to do with it. This is because we don’t recognize the essence of this energy only because we do not see our own essence.
In a way you can say that you need to be the essence of your existence; a vessel that is always receiving and giving. It’s a never ending flow of energy. Once it becomes static it loses the ability to transform other energies that it receives.

So to maximize your metabolism it becomes rather important to look at your life. How is your personal and emotional garden? Are you happy? Do you feel you experience a stressful life? Are you easy with different circumstances? Do you accept yourself?
There is no right answers for these questions. Only your own personal way. Nobody is the same except that we all have a vessel of flowing energy. But each one of us has different personality.

And when you come down to the point that you are answering to your heart and your personal and emotional gardens are flowing and growing with the seasons, you will see and know that you automatically adjust your food to it.

So, don’t worry too much about what you should or shouldn’t eat. Take care of your life and your body will tell you what it needs. Trust me, the fact that you will start to hear it already is a sign that you are listening to your heart.

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acceptance

These are wonderful times we live in.
It might be rather strange and a inappropriate statement when you look at the current news flashes that are thrown at us. But nevertheless I do make the statement that we live in wonderful times!

Many of us are already helping others by telling to wake up, trust your inner voice, allow yourself to be free and become aware of the changes that are upon us. These are some of the wonderful things that are taking place.
But there is something that I would like to add to all those inspiring and energetic messages.
For many of us it is probably the most important step; ‘to accept the way you are’.

Isn’t this such a simple and honest statement? Isn’t this the most profound and truthful and yet most daring thing one can do?But it’s true and for most it is the most liberating thing you can give yourself right now.
Accepting yourself, on the other hand, is a rather abstract and sometimes unclear subject.

I do so recognize the fact that accepting one’s self can have a limit or might even start processes in yourself that are confronting.
And I can only reply to this with the knowledge that it is a never ending process. Step by step you give yourself more and more freedom, more love and more understanding. You give yourself allowance to be who you choose to be and to be total. You start more and more to allow yourself to do what you need to do or are compelled to do.

know that your feelings of incompleteness, quilt, unworthiness, inability and any other sense that you might have that keeps you from being who you want to be, is as much worth as the idea of reaching that goal on how to become who you think you want to be. Both are simply said; ‘you are that’!

this is probably the most significant thing you can give yourself; accept the whole package of you.
The reason for this is that all of you that you think, label or feel that is negative, wrong or shouldn’t see the (public) daylight, is, in fact, just as beautiful and worthy as all the things you consider good, positive, better or growing material. The distinction of difference is not real.

So, before you consider to change yourself, put yourself through all kind of teachings and paradigms, try to start with this simple but powerful quest: ‘accept who, what and the way you are’!

You are so beautiful in all your different ways…

Some things to help in this:

– you really are already complete.
There is no right or wrong. There is no consequence to any action unless you yourself give it one.
All the ideas about what is right or wrong are kept alive in your mind. They might have been taught to you or they might have been created by you. But it does not determine anything about you!

– you don’t have to be perfect.
When coming in touch with teaching, lessons, inspirations or books, you might feel that you have to reach a certain level of awareness, be prepared for a shift or need to find and clean all your karma or to discover all the hurt and pain in your life so that you finally can become totally pure and acceptable.
My goodness…do you feel the guilt yet?
No, those teachings and lessons are to help and inspire but are sometimes misunderstood as something you have to achieve.
There is absolutely nothing you have to achieve!
Nothing you have to earn or do before you can be what you want to be.
You are already complete!

– Know that you can, are or sometimes have to be different.
We can’t all be the same and luckily we are not. But see the reassuring truth in the fact that you do not have to answer to any kind of conformity to be accepted or even valued. You are never being judged. What other might say is only their individual perspective on their own reality of how they experience you or anything else for that matter.

You are, at every point in your life, being loved!