Egocentric and selfishness. Two words that became heavy on interpretation.
There is a difference but yet both words are used in the same manner.
Ego centrism is an inability to understand or assume any perspective other than their own.
Selfishness is being concerned for oneself or one’s own advantage, pleasure, or welfare, regardless of others.
So far for what tradition has to say about these words
What if those interpretations are not as solid as we always thought they were? Are morals really fixed? Are they universal true?
What if these words do not actual resonate unless one understands that it must be within a collective agreement.
To choose ones self before anything else, to deliberately choose not to help someone, to leave someone behind for the profit of ones self, to live only for your own profit is often seen as being selfish or egocentric.
But where does this judgement come from? What gives us de idea that someone is selfish? Is it that person’s trade or behavior or is it our own lack of understanding, our lack of self knowledge and lack of love for ourselves?
If one would question someone else his or her behavior, is this done out of what? True concern to create a better situation that will benefit you and others? Why would someone want to question someone else’s behavior in the first place. Discomfort in one’s own reality? Why should one not choose for love for ones self?
And there lies the key to selfishness. The beautiful truth about selfishness is that it is a radiating and fulfilling choice or wish to feel love for ones self. And this could very well mean that you do or choose things that, in the eye of your surrounding, can be judged as selfish or egocentric. Well, they are right. Because you choose to love your self. You choose to be happy. And who on earth can deny you your happiness.
It is a common interpretation for the way it was taught and we just take it for the truth. But if we defy this common agreement we can start to think, believe and act according to what our inner guiding system tells us.
look at our children for example. before they are confronted with our convictions, our believes and our habits they are the innocence and pure souls that know very well what they want and do not want. They feel nothing but love and are fully open to everything that hits there world. They do not feel any judgement to what ever kind of behavior that is thrown at them. Only when they are purposely told that they have to alter there own true nature and to become self conscious and aware of their behavior just to become what is expected from their surrounding, their journey of self denial, lies and adapting to there surrounding is started to answer the need for acceptance and non disturbance from that same surrounding.
But just as those innocence young children we all are splendid accessible, all containing encyclopedia.
How about opening that amazing source you are and start deciding for yourself what is good for you, what makes you happy and what makes you tick! The really lovable world that we are looking for is in our selves. The living together part comes from accepting one’s self fully and from there the acceptance for difference is automatically made.
No biggy there… 😄
20 december 2020…There is a biggy here!
Reading back on this topic, which I wrote I don’t remember when and I don’t care, I still do see the evident truth of my careful chosen words but it is, just as evidently, not true at al at the same time. Yes, we grow – even though it is within an illusion – and within this growth we learn that some writings are not as important as the seemed at the moment it was written. Therefor a small, I’m not gonna explain to much on why and what or even considering that I have to explain myself, adding to this writing which, for that matter, can be added to any of my previous writting because it covers really everything else.
Being egocentric or selfish is meaningless! If I even would consider that there is a correct way of saying anything, which I feel less and less, I could say that from the above lines the following is the most accurate of all:
...”these words do not actual resonate unless one understands that it must be within a collective agreement.”...
For the rest of the carerfull written words you can say it is all bullocks!
Any describtion of behavior is and will never be otherwise nothing more than a describtion within an illusive world in which we agreed that certain behavior is either negative or positive. Because neither of those truly exist it is therefor impossible to clearify that something is different than something other. Nothing exist outside our own interpretation, outside our never ending production of thoughts.
Happiness? give me a break! What was I thinking! happiness is, just as any other proclaimed announcement such as egocentric or selfishness, an idea, a thought, which on itself has no meaning, no existance, nothing of any kind.
Please…although I could continue to elaborate on this empty subject I’m not. Just go and start looking in your mirrow for an hour and tell me what you find…