Egocentric or Selfishness

Egocentric and selfishness. Two words that became heavy on interpretation.
There is a difference but yet both words are used in the same manner.

Ego centrism is an inability to understand or assume any perspective other than their own.
Selfishness is being concerned for oneself or one’s own advantage, pleasure, or welfare, regardless of others.

So far for what tradition has to say about these words

What if those interpretations are not as solid as we always thought they were? Are morals really fixed? Are they universal true?
What if these words do not actual resonate unless one understands that it must be within a collective agreement.
To choose ones self before anything else, to deliberately choose not to help someone, to leave someone behind for the profit of ones self, to live only for your own profit is often seen as being selfish or egocentric.
But where does this judgement come from? What gives us de idea that someone is selfish? Is it that person’s trade or behavior or is it our own lack of understanding, our lack of self knowledge and lack of love for ourselves?
If one would question someone else his or her behavior, is this done out of what? True concern to create a better situation that will benefit you and others? Why would someone want to question someone else’s behavior in the first place. Discomfort in one’s own reality? Why should one not choose for love for ones self?

And there lies the key to selfishness. The beautiful truth about selfishness is that it is a radiating and fulfilling choice or wish to feel love for ones self. And this could very well mean that you do or choose things that, in the eye of your surrounding, can be judged as selfish or egocentric. Well, they are right. Because you choose to love your self. You choose to be happy. And who on earth can deny you your happiness.
It is a common interpretation for the way it was taught and we just take it for the truth. But if we defy this common agreement we can start to think, believe and act according to what our inner guiding system tells us.

look at our children for example. before they are confronted with our convictions, our believes and our habits they are the innocence and pure souls that know very well what they want and do not want. They feel nothing but love and are fully open to everything that hits there world. They do not feel any judgement to what ever kind of behavior that is thrown at them. Only when they are purposely told that they have to alter there own true nature and to become self conscious and aware of their behavior just to become what is expected from their surrounding, their journey of self denial, lies and adapting to there surrounding is started to answer the need for acceptance and non disturbance from that same surrounding.

But just as those innocence young children we all are splendid accessible, all containing encyclopedia.
How about opening that amazing source you are and start deciding for yourself what is good for you, what makes you happy and what makes you tick! The really lovable world that we are looking for is in our selves. The living together part comes from accepting one’s self fully and from there the acceptance for difference is automatically made.

No biggy there… 😄

20 december 2020…There is a biggy here!
Reading back on this topic, which I wrote I don’t remember when and I don’t care, I still do see the evident truth of my careful chosen words but it is, just as evidently, not true at al at the same time. Yes, we grow – even though it is within an illusion – and within this growth we learn that some writings are not as important as the seemed at the moment it was written. Therefor a small, I’m not gonna explain to much on why and what or even considering that I have to explain myself, adding to this writing which, for that matter, can be added to any of my previous writting because it covers really everything else. 
Being egocentric or selfish is meaningless! If I even would consider that there is a correct way of saying anything, which I feel less and less, I could say that from the above lines the following is the most accurate of all: 
...”these words do not actual resonate unless one understands that it must be within a collective agreement.”...
For the rest of the carerfull written words you can say it is all bullocks! 
Any describtion of behavior is and will never be otherwise nothing more than a describtion within an illusive world in which we agreed that certain behavior is either negative or positive. Because neither of those truly exist it is therefor impossible to clearify that something is different than something other. Nothing exist outside our own interpretation, outside our never ending production of thoughts. 
Happiness? give me a break! What was I thinking! happiness is, just as any other proclaimed announcement such as egocentric or selfishness, an idea, a thought, which on itself has no meaning, no existance, nothing of any kind. 

Please…although I could continue to elaborate on this empty subject I’m not. Just go and start looking in your mirrow for an hour and tell me what you find…



To describe what I want to share is sometimes hard. Sometimes, the topic is energy. Energy is shapeless and always changing. Nothing to grab on and has no handles to take with your intelectual mind.  That is the main lead I have here.

A very important part in life is the knowledge, knowing and feeling that you are already complete and whole.  This sense of recognition is basically understanding what you are and feeling the embracement of your self. Becoming conscious of your (true) self.

When you start to discover that the love you experience, the allowence that you feel, the acceptance that you experience is all you, you will see, feel and know that nothing, really nothing is different from you.  You are already healed. There is nothing you need to fix, to make better or to uplift to a next level. You don’t have to achieve anything or prepare for a higher dimension because you are already there where you can and will find what you’re looking for.

We live in an amazing world where we choose how to manifest our life. This is not an obligation but a joy. This life is not a journey but a joy. This choice is not put on you but was chosen by you for joy. This life is not a process of learning but to remember and to enjoy.  You can not fail! Because there is no one and nothing to judge over you. If you feel you have to achieve something, that you need to prove something or to reach something it is only because you put those bounderies there for yourself so you can do what you choose to do. But you do this out of your own free will and from your wholeness and completeness.

I know this sounds contradictional and it does sound as something you need to reach or achive. But it isn’t.



These are wonderful times we live in.
It might be rather strange and a inappropriate statement when you look at the current news flashes that are thrown at us. But nevertheless I do make the statement that we live in wonderful times!

Many of us are already helping others by telling to wake up, trust your inner voice, allow yourself to be free and become aware of the changes that are upon us. These are some of the wonderful things that are taking place.
But there is something that I would like to add to all those inspiring and energetic messages.
For many of us it is probably the most important step; ‘to accept the way you are’.

Isn’t this such a simple and honest statement? Isn’t this the most profound and truthful and yet most daring thing one can do?But it’s true and for most it is the most liberating thing you can give yourself right now.
Accepting yourself, on the other hand, is a rather abstract and sometimes unclear subject.

I do so recognize the fact that accepting one’s self can have a limit or might even start processes in yourself that are confronting.
And I can only reply to this with the knowledge that it is a never ending process. Step by step you give yourself more and more freedom, more love and more understanding. You give yourself allowance to be who you choose to be and to be total. You start more and more to allow yourself to do what you need to do or are compelled to do.

know that your feelings of incompleteness, quilt, unworthiness, inability and any other sense that you might have that keeps you from being who you want to be, is as much worth as the idea of reaching that goal on how to become who you think you want to be. Both are simply said; ‘you are that’!

this is probably the most significant thing you can give yourself; accept the whole package of you.
The reason for this is that all of you that you think, label or feel that is negative, wrong or shouldn’t see the (public) daylight, is, in fact, just as beautiful and worthy as all the things you consider good, positive, better or growing material. The distinction of difference is not real.

So, before you consider to change yourself, put yourself through all kind of teachings and paradigms, try to start with this simple but powerful quest: ‘accept who, what and the way you are’!

You are so beautiful in all your different ways…

Some things to help in this:

– you really are already complete.
There is no right or wrong. There is no consequence to any action unless you yourself give it one.
All the ideas about what is right or wrong are kept alive in your mind. They might have been taught to you or they might have been created by you. But it does not determine anything about you!

– you don’t have to be perfect.
When coming in touch with teaching, lessons, inspirations or books, you might feel that you have to reach a certain level of awareness, be prepared for a shift or need to find and clean all your karma or to discover all the hurt and pain in your life so that you finally can become totally pure and acceptable.
My goodness…do you feel the guilt yet?
No, those teachings and lessons are to help and inspire but are sometimes misunderstood as something you have to achieve.
There is absolutely nothing you have to achieve!
Nothing you have to earn or do before you can be what you want to be.
You are already complete!

– Know that you can, are or sometimes have to be different.
We can’t all be the same and luckily we are not. But see the reassuring truth in the fact that you do not have to answer to any kind of conformity to be accepted or even valued. You are never being judged. What other might say is only their individual perspective on their own reality of how they experience you or anything else for that matter.

You are, at every point in your life, being loved!